What Is Maturity? Part 2
Last time I pondered on what maturity is exactly. I concluded that we are mature when we become unselfish and put other people's needs ahead of ours. Of course that isn't all! I thought about it some more, and came up with another definition: Maturity is when we have a voice of our own.
I don't know about everyone, but it isn't easy to have your own opinion. Using children as an example of immaturity, we can observe how children often "echo" other people. Just the other day, I went to visit my "nieces" at their grandmother's house (kill two birds with one stone kind of thing. Visit both my nieces and my aunt. Begin to see the relationship with my "nieces?"). It was fascinating to me to see the younger sibling "echoing" her older sister. We were playing restaurant. I was the customer, the older sibling was the waiter, and the younger one was the cook. The older sibling would say, "Ok, what would you like to drink?... We have cherry wine, strawberry wine... (etc. Cute isn't it?)" All of a sudden the younger sibling would copy her sister and reiterate my choices of wine! It had to put a smile on my face observing them. But getting back to my point, you can see that the older sibling has developed her "voice." She can think for herself and form opinions from her experiences (as limited as it is, she's only 5 after all). But the younger one has yet to find her voice and simply copies her sister.
Well for me, it took me awhile before I begun to have a voice! I look back at the last couple of years and marvel how I simply absorbed all the knowledge around me. I could hear something said to me, completely understand the concept, but couldn't form my own opinion about it. Experience has a lot to do with it as well. To those who remember me from high school, should remember that I was a loner. I would never stick to one click, but often hung out with different people day to day. Back then, I could say I isolated myself and never ventured outside. So I took in knowledge but only understood it in mind. Isn't it always the case, that you can only truly understand things when you experience them for yourself?
Well, for a little update on my life, I'm doing okay. I've survived so far, and will continue to survive. No matter how difficult life gets for me, I'll continue to persevere. Besides, I need these experiences to continue to grow. Basically, I have been going through some tough times. My car got stolen, I"m only working part time and don't make enough to really support myself, plus feeling a little bitter over my experiences in Las Vegas. But hey, we all go through our rough periods. And no matter how difficult things get for me, I always have options. Of course one of those options is to go back to Vegas, and move back in with my parents. Despite how many times my mom may say she'll never take me back (yeah right! Heh), I know I'm always welcome there. But you know what? I'm not going to. I've been living with them for far too long, and haven't been able to grow. So I'll continue to live away from them. I can feel myself maturing already... ;-P
dkFX
I don't know about everyone, but it isn't easy to have your own opinion. Using children as an example of immaturity, we can observe how children often "echo" other people. Just the other day, I went to visit my "nieces" at their grandmother's house (kill two birds with one stone kind of thing. Visit both my nieces and my aunt. Begin to see the relationship with my "nieces?"). It was fascinating to me to see the younger sibling "echoing" her older sister. We were playing restaurant. I was the customer, the older sibling was the waiter, and the younger one was the cook. The older sibling would say, "Ok, what would you like to drink?... We have cherry wine, strawberry wine... (etc. Cute isn't it?)" All of a sudden the younger sibling would copy her sister and reiterate my choices of wine! It had to put a smile on my face observing them. But getting back to my point, you can see that the older sibling has developed her "voice." She can think for herself and form opinions from her experiences (as limited as it is, she's only 5 after all). But the younger one has yet to find her voice and simply copies her sister.
Well for me, it took me awhile before I begun to have a voice! I look back at the last couple of years and marvel how I simply absorbed all the knowledge around me. I could hear something said to me, completely understand the concept, but couldn't form my own opinion about it. Experience has a lot to do with it as well. To those who remember me from high school, should remember that I was a loner. I would never stick to one click, but often hung out with different people day to day. Back then, I could say I isolated myself and never ventured outside. So I took in knowledge but only understood it in mind. Isn't it always the case, that you can only truly understand things when you experience them for yourself?
Well, for a little update on my life, I'm doing okay. I've survived so far, and will continue to survive. No matter how difficult life gets for me, I'll continue to persevere. Besides, I need these experiences to continue to grow. Basically, I have been going through some tough times. My car got stolen, I"m only working part time and don't make enough to really support myself, plus feeling a little bitter over my experiences in Las Vegas. But hey, we all go through our rough periods. And no matter how difficult things get for me, I always have options. Of course one of those options is to go back to Vegas, and move back in with my parents. Despite how many times my mom may say she'll never take me back (yeah right! Heh), I know I'm always welcome there. But you know what? I'm not going to. I've been living with them for far too long, and haven't been able to grow. So I'll continue to live away from them. I can feel myself maturing already... ;-P
dkFX
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